Why there is nothing wrong with Wrecking Ball and if there is, it's just you

Credits: @londonfeminist

Despite the recent hooha regarding Wrecking Ball by Miley Cyrus, I've just watched it last night and needless to say I am enraged. Not for the reason that you think, mind you, I am mad because she is under fire for doing what she did in the music video. It's her mv so what is wrong with it being the way how she wants it to be?

"But she's naked!"

"And she behaves suggestively while licking a hammer!!"

"This is way too distasteful for our society!!!"

Hello, double standard much?

Need I really remind you people that there are way more indecent mv out there by male singers? Yes? Male singers who sings while half-naked female dancers grinds themselves against the singers? Still can't think of any? Well, how about Robin Thicke's Blurred Line mv where the scantily clad female dancers hump animals?

Up until this point I have steadfastly refused to listen or watch BL's mv because it's nothing but a rape song. However, for the sake of this post I begrudgingly allow myself to suffer through the mv and if that isn't downright disgusting I don't know what is. It is, hands down, the most wasteful four minutes thirty two seconds of my life.

So, why is Miley under flak for WB when the society practically reveres BL? Oh right, silly me. How could I have forgotten that we live in a patriarchy society where double standards rule.

That it's alright for male singer to have a mv for a rape song that features smug males with scantily clad and at times naked female dancers while it's absolutely wrong for a female singer who has a mv where she too is half naked and at times naked as like aforementioned dancers.

I don't think I will ever understand why it's alright for girls to be naked in a guy's mv but not in her own.

Nor do I think I will ever agree that it's ok for girls to grind themselves to a guy singer while it's definitely wrong for a girl singer to grind herself against another singer. Yes, I'm talking about Miley's VMA performance but that will come later on.

Back to WB and BL, as you have prolly grasp on to my train of thoughts so far, I don't think there is anything wrong with WB's mv while there's a legion of reasons why BL is condemnable.

1) WB has way better lyrics than blurred lines. I mean aside from how even nursery rhymes would have been a better song than a song about rape, WB is one of Miley's better songs thus far and you can actually see and feel emotions being poured through the songs. And even if upon hearing BL, you don't believe that Robin is actually singing about rape, please go here and enlighten yourself for the sake of this world's humanity.

2) WB's mv is more artistically constructed than BL. Yes,yes,yes Miley is naked but is there really anything wrong with it besides your own double standard? From the context of the song, I actually applaud her for wearing what she did, or not wearing in this case, because it can be a symbolisation of how vulnerable and naked she feels/the subject of the song makes her feel. And if I'm not mistaken, she said so too herself in an interview.

In light of her recent VMA performance I can try (am still trying) to infer how people might think that her being naked is another sign of her turning wild/*inserts whatever else that people are saying about it*.Since I'm neither fan nor friends of Miley I cannot attest that it's not but even so being naked makes much more artistic sense in WB than in BL. Sorry but three males singing about how there is possibly blurred lines in rape while half-naked female dancers strut around irks me to no end.

Sorry to tell you this Robby boy but if there's a definitive black and white in this world, it's obviously in rape.

No means NO.

Oh and robby boy, self-compliment is not compliment so having " Robin Thicke has huge D" written on the wall in your mv doesn't show any class but instead, am I sensing a hint of insecurity in you?

3) Miley grew up. Get this into your head and stop whining will ya? So what if she's no longer the innocent looking girl next door that you grew up watching in Hannah Montana? I don't believe that she has gone wild, she's not involved in drugs and alcohol, she just grew up and decided that being princess-like is not her cup of tea so what's wrong with her tough-ing up her image. I find her new rugged look more refreshing than the long blonde locks and girly outfits that many other Hollywood stars adopt. She is actually getting out of the cookie-cutter-syndrome that plagues many a female so sorry if I actually prefer individual over clones.

And now about her VMA's performance: I can honestly say that it's not to my taste because I find those huge bears creepy but again, how is her overall actions different from those male singers who have female dancers rubbing all over them? Those aren't females is it?

Double standard is again the answer here, much to my chagrin.

Robin was also as much guilty as she is, if she is guilty at all, for the performance because he was an active participant too. Why isn't he being lambasted for the performance then? Why wasn't he chastised for not advising Miley against doing such thing?

Especially when he's older than she is (hence with much more experience) and better (because y'know in the world that we live in, the fact that he's a male alone makes him better and more superior than her) so why didn't he tell Miley to drop the act when he knew in advanced that she was going to do such thing. He himself admitted that they practiced in advance so if he gave the green light for miley to go ahead then why is she under fire for her 'slutty' behaviours (and i use this term loosely here) when robin is as equally wrong?

I hate how, and I quote a friend of mine here, it's always ok for the guy to stand there and be the sex pole but it's not ok if a girl wants to rub against it because all girls must be sexless and pure creatures and if we are not, we are a disgrace to the female race.

So no, I don't think there is anything wrong with Wrecking Ball. Criticise the song on its own merits if you don't like it because everyone has their own likes and dislikes but please stop with all the "The song is great but it will be better if she's not naked.", "Ewww wrecking ball is so distasteful because of the mv.", "It's too much."

If you want to know what too much is, go listen and watch Blurred line and give Robin his due flak.

You're immature and that's about it

*please be forewarned that this is a long rant*

I'm a firm believer that respect should be earned and not given.

I don't give a damn if you think that I should respect you just because you're older than me, a relative or because you're a person with ranking and status in society. I don't factorize all those ostensible and shallow stuff when it comes to whom I respect and whom I don't. If you want my respect, you earn it.

This is what happened on Thursday: My last class for the day was from 4-6 pm at V103 and that class is occupied by another class (let's just name them A) presumably from 2-4 pm or 2.30-4 pm. This week is the twelfth week for this college semester of mine and for the past ten weeks, notwithstanding the first one, A has taken over our time without fail. For every single bloody week, they managed to take up the first 10-15 minutes of OUR TIME and OUR CLASS and every farking time, they never apologize.

Never did the lecturer/tutor nor did the student utter a single apology or a word of remorse on how they have intruded on our schedule. Never.

This week, yet again, we waited and waited until 4 pm and then the lecturer/tutor for A ( I shall name him B), popped his head out the classroom and told a few of my classmates that he want 15 minutes to conclude his class.

He didn't ask nor did he make a request. He just told us like he's entitled to it which he obviously think he is because he's a lecturer/tutor mar.

I wasn't there when he told them that so I couldn't tell him what I think about his request : rubbish. I want a  holiday to Germany, Klose's autograph, tickets to the World Cup 2014 etc but do you see my family and friends  just give it to me just because I told them that I want it. NO. What more if I demanded a stranger for it and especially when I have done nothing to deserve it.

It's a fact of life that one doesn't get everything that he or she wants/need particularly when you have not work hard for it and even if you have striven and work for it, it doesn't guarantee that you'll get it too. That's reality.

And that was what I would have told him if I was there ( I was standing in front of the next class hence I have missed out the whole exchange) Many of you might argue that the examples that I presented are not valid because it's different from B's request because B is a lecturer/tutor and he needs the 15 minutes for academical purpose. Fine. But would a please be too hard of a word for one whom I presume possessed a degree of masters to utter? NO right. Particularly when you have been doing this without fail for the last three months.

But alright, he's a lecturer/tutor and if he needs another 15 minutes of our time then so be it. We tolerated it even though this has been going on for more often than we like. Besides, this week our lecturer wasn't here yet so grudgingly we waited outside.

Mind you that this class of mine finishes at 6 pm, peak hour, so for many of us we'll have to brave the traffic jam to get home but if we could start early, we can finish early and go home earlier too since this is a practical writing class.

Around 4.10 pm, my lecturer came and when he saw all of us still standing outside with disgruntled expression mirroring on all our faces, he knocks on the door and open it to see if they were done in which I'm sure B would have said something along the line of "We're gonna finish soon" or "Give me another five minutes." You see this lecturer of mine is also a softie so he agreed to it lar, much to our dismay, so we continued waiting.

At 4.17 pm, the door of the class open and we could all see that B has concluded his class and was asking his students to hand in their assignments. And this is where the story gets interesting. Knowing that the righteous owners of class V103 were standing outside and waiting, they all take their own sweet time to hand in their work. Worse, some of them were still loitering at the back of the class and talking like there's no tomorrow. We all got even pissed because seriously why can't he collect the assignments outside the class since we have been waiting for quite some time already.

Then a classmate of mine told this few guys - who idk what their problem is were standing and talking in the middle of the door hence successfully blocking the entrance - to ask their classmates to hurry up. Y'know what one of them did? He sarcastically told his classmates of our request and make it sound like he's entertaining a request of a 3 years-old who demanded for a candy shop : patronizing

I was already boiling mad and that idiot just tip the scales so I raised my voice and told the class,
"Excuse me but we still have class you know." B then childishly got mad and started a tirade about a bunch of bull if you ask me and I would have retorted if he didn't bring up the fact that my lecturer already agreed to the delay.

What can I say to that? A lot of things actually but it wouldn't change the fact that he has a point there. I might be angry but I'm also logical thus I quit my argument. However, he wasn't done and started to childishly threw a tantrum. He took his students' assignments and numerously slammed the table with it meanwhile shouting to the remaining idiots to hurry up.

Finally when he was done, he came out of the classroom and apologized to my lecturer in a very fake manner. He said that he was sincerely sorry for holding us up but I sense no sincerity in it at all so I muttered under my breath, "I don't feel that it's sincere at all."

I don't know if he heard it or not but I have it on good authority that B glared at me all the way to his office, which is situated quite a distance away. Tell me if that isn't childish?

I mean c'mon, how old are you? And you're a bloody lecturer for god sake. He might have been offended by what I said but is really what I said a deviation from truth? Lies or blasphemy spin by yours truly? I was even being polite. I said excuse me not fuck off so what right do you have to act the way you did?

Besides, is it our fault that you cannot finish teaching in the designated period week after week? Hell no, so why must we suffer from your incompetence. We might still be students but time is precious to us too so why waste ours? And we actually pay fees to sit in air conditioned room to study not wait for your highness in the sweltering hot weather outside the classroom.

Another thing that I'm peeved about is that they (the idiots) always litters the class with rubbish whether it's the remains of the food that they tapau-ed to eat in the class or just papers and such. Every single week after a 10-15 minutes hold-up, we'll get into a class that smells horribly of the idiots' BO, rubbish on every nook and cranny of the room and a whiteboard that will perpetually be filled with A and B's lessons.

Is it really that difficult to throw your rubbish into the dustbin provided? Will it be too mountainous a task for one of you to kindly erase the board that you've used for the lesson?

I can't even.

By the way, the last I checked excuse me is a polite term. You don't believe me, Oxford Dictionaries define it as such:

So B, you are absolutely not worthy of the respect that should be given to someone of your profession while on the other hand, you totally deserve a complaint letter that I will be sending in to Student Affairs Department soon. And the next time if I ever bump into you, I'll actually smile and bid you a good day because I have manners and are mature enough for my age unlike you.

The extent of stupid-ism

Was going to post about something else that angers me when I come across this on twitter.

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Needless to say, this idiot has just top my list of "How stupid can one be?". I can still barely,  JUST BARELY ONLY OK, understand it if this statement was to come from the male specimen but for it to be from a female?! And the gall of those five idiots who retweets it raged me beyond words.

This is beyond my imagination on how shallow,ignorant and biased one can be on rape cases. I am angry, yes, but what I truly feel when I see these is sick. I am well and truly sicken to the core by how one can actually think,what more, condone these kind of "belief" that the fault in raping lies with the women.

What has our society become? And how much worse will it be if "belief" like these has already been sowed in the mind of some?

Justice? You've gotta be kidding me

Albeit pursuing something which requires me to flip through the newspapers everyday to get myself up to date with current happenings, I haven't touch the newspaper for a while now. That is because I'm truly disappointed with what I see in them and thus I stay away unless it's for my daily dose of football news, horoscopes, cartoons and interesting features.

And despite how I should brush up my writing skills and experience with commentary on everything under the sun, I don't practice doing so. This is because I'm steering my blog away from politics and in our nation's context, this means almost everything. Malaysia's politic is intrinsically linked with every single thing whether it is education,sports or entertainment, its just there and not being a huge fan of them I try to keep my distance.

I'm doing this not because I don't care but because I don't believe.

I don't have trust in politicians. I don't believe that there is such thing as black and white in politics. And most importantly, I don't have faith that there's a clear line dividing right from wrong when power and money comes into play.

When the fundamental foundation of trust, belief and faith is missing, then what is there to comment about?

Well, that was the motto that I upheld till now. I have always managed to refrain myself from giving comments on the current happening even when some of these things raise my ire at how preposterously ridiculous they are. Or maybe, the reason on why I had managed to keep quiet for so long is because I just haven't found a cause that was dear to my heart.

Anyway, that motto of mine will be shelved this time around because I just can't not comment on this utterly asinine thing that can only happen in Malaysia. Malaysia Boleh, eh?

A man in Singapore got 19 years for raping his young niece meanwhile in Malaysia, you can get off relatively scot-free for raping underage girls as it is deemed a 'consensual act'.  What nonsense is this? And for such gibberish shit to be coming from a judge, it would be hilarious if not for the fact that these victims will forever be scarred with not only the vile act that was enforced upon them, but also from the injustice that they suffer under the hand of the judiciary.

In fact, the verdict was so absurd that I'm still trying to grasp a hold of its validity. I'm still asking myself everyday, "How can such a ludicrous sentence be delivered - especially - by one who is supposed to uphold the justice in our country? How can a child's consent be a mitigating factor - if there was actually an assent in the first place?"

I mean c'mon; for a kid of 12 or 13 years old, they will still need their parents to sign a consent form before they are allowed to go on a zoo trip with their school. If they still need their parent's permission to do something as mundane and insignificant like that, then what gives their consent for sexual act legitimate?

They are still a child in the eye of the law. So, how can the consent given by a child be enough of a reason to liberate the perpetrators from a punishment befitting his crime? How could a child's consent be used against them when they are still not fully aware of the ramification of what a meek yes could lead to? Besides, is a consent that was given under the threat of retract love still be considered an assent?

And the best part of it was that another judge in Malaysia had the audacity to utter such sexist an utterance like this, "We must not forget who is involved in this rape allegation, even if she is an adult, in which women have a tendency to exaggerate about sexual act." Can we have a round of applause for this male chauvinist brute, please? Not only is this statement gender insensitive, it is downright degrading and insulting to women especially now when women and men have the same equal standing in society.

So, he thinks that it is OK to let rapist go scot-free because women tend to exaggerate about the so called sexual act that they had 'willingly' participate in. Can he be anymore sexist and irrational? Or can Malaysia be anymore Malaysia?

These lenient sentences over statutory rape by national bowler, Noor Afizal Azizan and electrician, Chuah Guan Jiu just hammered even more into people's belief on how very flawed Malaysia's judiciary is and never have I been even more ashamed by my country of birth.